Kindness In a Toothpick

PAULA FULGUM • April 1, 2025

Have you ever had something in your teeth during a meeting where you were smiling the whole time and no one told you?  I have. And it’s quite embarrassing. 


I find there are two camps of people. Those that motion to you so you can do something about it and those that just sit quietly because they don’t want to embarrass you. Both are kind gestures with two very different outcomes.


This is an interesting scenario for me because it’s a lot like leadership. If a leader doesn’t give you the hard facts to let you know something is off then how will you know and therefore, improve?


If a leader observes you going off track time and time again and doesn’t point it out to you  because they are trying to be kind- you may not know you are going in the wrong direction and will never arrive. There are so many stories about how terrible a leader is because they call a spade a spade when they see it. They are willing to risk not being liked- because they are trying to help. This often is perceived wrong… or dare I say…unkind? Delivery is everything and it’s in the HOW this is done that matters- no one wants to give or receive bad news- but it is an unavoidable action that needs to happen for improvement and resolution.


So what to do? Next time someone tells you have something is in your teeth at a meeting- don’t get mad at them. Thank them. It’s not easy to tell people things that are embarrassing or things they really don’t want to hear.  And sitting idly by saying nothing at all may feel like being a friend… But it certainly isn’t being a leader.



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By Paula Fulghum June 16, 2026
After more than 25 years in Human Resources, I’ve watched South Carolina transform.
By Paula Fulghum June 12, 2026
One thing has always fascinated me about manufacturing. Manufacturers are masters of efficiency. They invest millions in automation, robotics, lean processes, quality systems, and continuous improvement. They’re constantly looking for ways to produce more, reduce waste, improve accuracy, and scale operations. And it works. Yet when it comes to HR, I often see a completely different mindset. Many manufacturers still rely on highly manual processes for onboarding, benefits administration, payroll changes, time-off requests, and employee communication. As an HR professional who has spent years working with manufacturers across South Carolina, I’ve often wondered why. The same company that can automate a production line to improve efficiency by 20% may still be handing out paper forms during orientation. The same organization that uses sophisticated technology on the shop floor may still be relying on manual HR processes that create delays and frustration for employees. What’s interesting is that today’s manufacturing workforce is more connected than ever. Nearly every employee has a smartphone in their pocket. They expect the same convenience in managing their employment information that they experience in every other aspect of life. This doesn’t mean people aren’t important. In fact, I believe the opposite. Technology should handle the transactions so HR professionals can focus on the relationships. Instead of spending time processing forms, answering routine questions, or entering data, HR can focus on engagement, retention, leadership development, workforce planning, and supporting employees where it matters most. The manufacturers that will win the talent battle in the next decade won’t just automate production. They’ll modernize the employee experience as well. What are your thoughts? Why do you think manufacturing has embraced automation on the production floor faster than it has in HR? #Manufacturing #SouthCarolinaManufacturing #HumanResources #WorkforceDevelopment #OperationalExcellence #EmployeeExperience #Leadership #SouthCarolinaBusiness #HRTechnology #InnovateHR
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